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May 13, 109

38. K'uei - Opposition

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         -- --     above     Li     The Clinging, Flame
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         -----     below     Tui    The Joyous, Lake
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    The Judgement

         Opposition. In small matters, good fortune.

    The Image

         Above, fire; below, the lake:
         The image of Opposition.
         Thus amid all fellowship
         The superior man retains his individuality.

    Changing Lines

         Changing yang at the bottom means:
         Remorse disappears.
         If you lose your horse, do not run after it;
         It will come back of its own accord.
         When you see evil people,
         Guard yourself against mistakes.

         Changing yang in the second place means:
         One meets his lord in a narrow street.
         No blame.

         Changing yin in the third place means:
         One sees the wagon dragged back,
         The oxen halted,
         A man's hair and nose cut off.
         Not a good beginning, but a good end.

         Changing yang in the fourth place means:
         Isolated through opposition,
         One meets a like-minded man
         With whom one can associate in good faith.
         Despite the danger, no blame.

         Changing yin in the fifth place means:
         Remorse disappears.
         The companion bites his way through the wrappings.
         If one goes to him,
         How could it be a mistake?

         Changing yang at the top means:
         Isolated through opposition,
         One sees one's companion as a pig covered with dirt,
         As a wagon full of devils.
         First one draws a bow against him,
         Then one lays the bow aside.
         He is not a robber; he will woo at the right time.
         As one goes, rain falls; then good fortune comes.